Friday, April 23, 2010

Why do we wear black to funerals?

Today is Emily's funeral and I really don't want to wear black. It's not because everything I have that's black is really too small, except what I wore to the funeral home yesterday; sad but true. It's spring, can't I wear pink? Emily liked pink. She liked pink and balloons and tiaras, although wearing a tiara really isn't my style, I'm quite sure a 5 year old would hardily approve of me dawning a rhinestone crown in her honor. Black is what people expect, so black is what I'll wear. I guess it really doesn't matter and it seems pretty self-absorbed to be thinking about clothes when someone's little girl is gone. But if I think about Emily too much, it's hard to function, so wardrobe seems safe.
Emily was 5 years old and had cancer that spread throughout her whole body. I never had the pleasure of meeting her. All I did was make a quilt to help raise money for her family. But circumstances being what they are and quiltmakers being who we are- you get attached to those you create for. Everyday I would stitch and pray for her and her family. I got to know members of her family, some in person some just through e-mails. In an odd turn of events, Emily's brother was able to bring the quilt home to his sister. Two days later she passed away sleeping under that quilt of pink flowers. Her services will be held in the church where I volunteer and I guess it would be appropriate for me to wear black... but I do have a wonderful pink jacket that might be nice.

5 comments:

  1. So sorry to hear the news. That poor family. I'm glad Emily got to see the beautiful quilt you made in her name.

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  2. The mother of a friend of mine died a couple of years go and they wore their mother's very colorful jackets and encouraged others to wear bright colors too. My heart breaks for that family.

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  3. What a sad, sad story. I feel so sorry for Emily's family. I have a granddaughter that is 5, and that brings home to me just how young and sweet that age is. I'm so glad that Emily got to use the quilt you made.

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  4. I was telling Mike the story about the brother winning the trip and then trading for the quilt the other day and became so overwhlemed with emotion. He just smiled at me. It is amazing how a little love can go along way. By you sharing through the blog, I was able to pray for her and her family and hear one of thsweetest stories ever of a brothers love for his sister. It reminds me of how simple God's love for us is. It is there for us all we have to do is accept it. I love you.

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  5. Laura what a wonderful thing you did. The quilt is just beautiful and now her family have something lovely to look at and remember Emily by, and all of the people who cared enough to try to help. You have a very big heart.

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